Friday, 1 May 2026

Becoming Emotionally Involved with Characters



 By Alyssa J. Montgomery


Well, it's a wrap! The third book in my Hope Creek Series - Now and Always in Hope Creek - has been released today. 

But, after the champagne cork has popped - and even while the messages of congratulations are being received - I confess that I'm feeling a little flat. 

"Why?" 

It's simple. I've spent so long with these characters - learning who they are and watching their stories unfold, that I've formed a real connection with them and now I'm going to miss them.

Below: The Richardson Family (AI image)

While I've been writing their stories (and you'll note I write 'their stories' not 'my stories') I've become deeply invested in them and formed an attachment to them. I've understood their fears, shared their triumphs, worried over their struggles, rooted for them and cried at their heartaches. I've been on an emotional roller coaster ride with them as each drama in their lives has unfolded. And ... the heroes have definitely claimed a piece of my heart. (Insert swoon here.)

How much attachment is good and how much is unhealthy? There are a number of articles on the internet about the dangers of authors forming deep attachments to their characters.

Above: Morgan, Matt, Stella, Mitch & Kade (and Jax the dog)
Callie, baby Rory and Jack; Jim and Margaret and Blue 

How deep is too deep? One of the pitfalls of caring too much would be if the author refused to let their character suffer or intervened in the course of the story to alter the character's fate. 

Yes, I speak as though the characters' futures are pre-ordained. I generally feel that way - as though I'm merely a scribe channelling their story. Sometimes, I'm even surprised at a turn of events that I didn't see coming, but if disaster is about to strike, I don't stop it from happening. 

I quote cmbel2005 from a reddit.com web page who wrote:

    "Fictional characters are incorporeal. Inanimate. They don't exist. To develop emotional feelings with them to the point of debasing the story is a failure in my opinion."

I think the crucial words here are 'to the point of debasing the story' because romance writers know how important it is to let the characters draw out every possible emotion in the reader. Without feeling all the varying emotions, would we care about the outcome of the story? Would we keep reading?

Have you heard authors referring to their stories as their 'book babies'? 

I think I understand what cmbel2005 is saying - up to a point.  Authors shouldn't be like overbearing mothers who can't let their characters develop. We shouldn't avoid relationship breakups or situations that hurt our characters because it might save their feelings but it will detract from the depth of the story. Characters must experience all the highs and lows of life so they're more relatable. In fact, I think it takes skill for an author to learn about their characters and make them leap off the page as though they're real life people. It takes skill and effort to make our readers care so much about fictional characters. 

I confess that I have been missing the Richardson clan from Hope Creek, and I've taken great joy in using ChatGTP to create some images of the family. I told myself it was to build the hype around the release - strictly intended for promotion purposes only - but wow it was amazing to see my characters coming to life in images that were straight out of the storylines.

What do you think? Is that taking attachment to characters a bit too far? It might be, because like a proud mum, right now I feel the need to share some of those images from the Richardson's family photo album with you! (Like Grandma's Brag Book). I like my characters so much, I want you to get to know them and be invested in them too!

Above: Morgan, Stella, Margaret, Jim and Callie (AI Images)
Below: Margaret and Jim Richardson of Hope Creek Station


Below: The Richardson Clan gathers for one of Margaret's famous home cooked meals.
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I'm sure that as romance readers, you've formed attachments to characters you've read about. I'd love to know which characters have stayed in your mind and what is it about them or their situation that's made you feel that emotional attachment? 

Love to Learn: About how other authors feel about their characters and how real their characters feel to them.
Love to Laugh: At the fact that I really may have become too involved with these characters - although having said that, I have moved on to write the first book of a new series and there are no Richardsons in sight!
Love to Love: Starting each story or series and making connections with the characters and knowing I'm going to enjoy their journey through the ups and downs of life.





7 comments:

  1. OH MY GOSH Alyssa, firstly please invite me to a legendary Hope Creek dinner. Look at that spread! And I can completely understand when you have to say goodbye to characters that you love and adore. As a reader, well, quite frankly, it's a positive and utter dire WRENCH to say goodbye to some books and characters. Especially if it's a series you've been committed and connected to for a long time. But even reading a single book in one day will do it with me if it's marvellous. That's the magic of reading (and writing)! You know you've done something right when you don't want to leave those people... So, well done on the Hope Creek series, such an amazing winner for so many. A gift to us all. No doubt I'll close the last page with a sigh and a wistful smile and think... What's next?!
    Miranda xx

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    1. Yes, it can be a wrench and as for dinner at Hope Creek Station - according to Blue, nothing beats Marg's cooking!
      I hope you do close the last page with a sigh and a wistful smile! Thanks for dropping by the Breathless Blog, Miranda.

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  2. Jayne Kingsley4 May 2026 at 12:05

    Congratulations on finishing your series, Alyssa! It is a bittersweet feeling to know that the joy of writing a series is coming to a close, stepping away from a world you've spent so many hours in - however, you could always do a spin off with the kids - baby Rory looks like a hero in the making ;) The characters in Nora Roberts brides quartet series still stay with me, and I honestly wanted to hire them when I was planning my own wedding! I think that was part of why I connected to those characters so much at the time, as it was a parallel to an event happening in my own life. I love that you've gone the extra mile and created images in ChatGPT of the Richardson family! What a great way to promote the book and it gives the viewer an immediate mood and feel for the books. Not too much at all, IMO. Jayne xx

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    1. Thanks Jayne. I thought the image production might be a bit OTT but I couldn't resist! Yes, maybe the characters will be back by popular demand one day. Let's hope so!

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  3. Well done on finishing the Hope Creek series Alyssa - love the images! And good luck with your new series.

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    1. Thanks Marilyn! Glad you love the images.
      Book 1 of the new series is done. Book 2 is being played with in my mind, but I've actually had a few emails to write Melissa's story - a character from my Roses for Sophie book, so I've promised I'll do that!

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  4. What a fabulous achievement Alyssa. It is very hard to give up characters that have lived rent free in your head for so long. Then a spark of an idea comes along and a whole new set of characters move in. In the meantime enjoy the buzz.

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